9 posts tagged “relationships”

As I look back over my life I am reminded of how much people loved one another.  Girls and boys could be the best of friends without having sex.  I am not ruling out the activity of sex during that time but it did not rule over the heart as it does today.

We are finding more and more sexual activity is taking place among our youths at a younger and younger age.  Also with this growing number, we find sexual activity multiplying among the same sexual preferences.  With that, we also see an outrage of infidelity.  What is all of this telling us?  Very simple, we are not developing our total selves.  The physical self is ruling and it is doing so with no conscious of morality.  No one wants to admit the human race has lost touch with its purpose to exist.  When you have no program, heathen tendencies rule our conscious.  We were created to love one another unconditionally.

Why sex?  I had to ask myself this question knowing I too have in my lifetime experienced revealing my nakedness to a man for the first time knowing just maybe I should not do this.  But I completed the mission with no thought of the risks.  Why?  Because in that moment I and so many other people allow the adrenalin rush to bond with another human overtake our logic.  It is just that simple.  We dive in hoping for something magical, special, bonding and at times proof that love is possible.  The very act itself promises no bed of roses only hope that maybe just maybe we are special to someone or we just downright need to feel something, something we do not experience outside of this experience.

What we are seeking is a conscious connection to someone.  We need love a love that makes us feel alive and appreciated.  When we surrender to this quickening, we are escaping the alienated world we exist in.  Love is so rare and seldom felt that we lose touch with the sensations that make it special between two people.  It is easier to search for each other under the sheets instead of above water face to face.  The natural tendencies to feel the needs and desires of one another have been savored due to selfishness and self seeking to survive in a world that hates love.

Sex without the spirit of love is void.  People keep indulging in the act like a crack head looking to recapture the first euphoric moment of ecstasy.  They roam from partner to partner hoping for a fulfillment that only God can fill.  You see God is love and love is God.  It is a far more than an orgasmic experience.  The orgasmic experience only reveals a false and temporal fulfillment in comparison to experiencing the reality of God.  Whether we acknowledge God or not, human nature will seek gratification because there is something in them that desires its Creator, because God put that desire there at birth.  You may think you need a sexual fix.  It is not that, it is God calling you to experience His reality.

Lonely people sleep together every night.  They have sex and experience an unfulfilled that not even they understand.  At times they will creep on their partner thinking he or she is not delivering when in reality no human can deliver fulfillment but God.  Without God, a destructive force rules our sexual indulgence.  This is why diseases and unwanted children are spreading like wild fire.  All the outcomes are evidence of a lack of love.  We are moving too fast to see.  This is how the world controls our choices.  The first step in saving ourselves is to be still and know we belong to God.  WITHOUT LOVE, SEX IS JUST FALSE HOPE FOR IT.  Yes, we are a world of love starved people.

Love is something that always held my interest even when I was a child.  Something about that word makes us react from within.  Some people become emotional and react gently towards their loved one while others have proven to react violently to those words.  What is it about love that reminds us we are human?  It is a universal word seldom defined by two people yet desired to be heard.  As I go into the years of my life I am finding love to be a word that is spoken freely without any accountability of its meaning.  I feel this is why people are so misunderstood by one another.  “I love you” were words that was suppose to build us up and give us strength to exist in a world of difficulty; yet in reality, we are learning those words are not delivering results that make this world a better place.  Why is that?

Yesterday while I was having dinner with my son, Marcus we found it interesting that we both have learned our feelings are not equated in our identity when we are involved in relationships.  We found it to be a dilemma to how someone can say he or she loves us and find no interest in our feelings especially those that make us happy.  I wondered when someone says he or she loves you; do you really understand what is being said?

Someone shared with me their lack of not understanding why a woman he is willing to provide for along with her illegitimate child would find it an inconvenience to not go to the store and buy him some socks knowing he needed them.  Then, someone shared with me that it is not understood why someone would not join them in going to the store after being asked by the one she supposedly loves.  It was amazing to realize people say I love you quite freely but their actions say something different.  Why would a man you may not see for months on end leave your state and return to his not honoring a simple request of leaving his fragrance on your pillow?  How can a woman knowing her fiancée’ is heading to Iraq refuse his call because she is busy doing hair?  What keeps people from being conscious of other people's feelings especially when they supposedly love you? 

This dilemma is not uncommon.  In fact it is very common.  People who would rather not be alone allow the one they love to not fulfill their needs.  Years go by and one is happy while the other is unhappy.  Many affairs result as a result of accepting less than you deserve from a relationship.  If someone tells you he or she loves you, what is it that is being loved.  If it is not your feelings and thoughts that make you who you are, then what is it that someone loves about you?

I am sure we all have been told "I love you" and found these words to make us feel special and willing to share more of ourselves with others.  But do we really understand what it really means?  Universally speaking, I am coming to learn these powerful words mean there is something in you I can incorporate into my life.   I can overlook the aspects of you I do not like.  And, I am willing to share my space with you if you are willing to share your space with me.  Is this enough for a special relationship?  You tell me.

Up until the last two years my oldest and dear friend who was 89 years old was my source of inspiration and wisdom.  She was widowed for twelve years and made it clear she would never marry again.  This position in life seems to be popular among many widows.  I have been widowed for twenty years.  Marriage was something I enjoyed for it allowed me to build a foundation to live upon while I faced the world with its challenges.  But why was I not married and so many other widows?  Because many widows and widowers know the chances of being loved again are slim or nearly impossible.

 How did we end up so alienated from one another?  Many of us will leave this world without a true partner and soul mate, because love has become difficult to embrace.  For sure if you have ever been loved, you know when you have been shortchanged.  How can a widow or a widower ignore the reality that though someone is kind and wants to be with you that this does not mean he or she loves you?  It can't be ignored because love is something that can't be denied.  It has a power of its own that touches your heart in the presence of the one who loves you.  To accept kindness as love has costs many people grief.

 Love today is not the love I remember.  Love cares about your feelings, desires and that which makes you smile. It is a selfless sharing that allows the other person to be energized, lifted up to a state of fulfillment.  With this love, you want to do great things for mankind.  It is not something you just share in your home you go out into the world to bring light and hope to a world lacking in the beauty of love. Today, love means I will tolerate or be with this person because it makes my life easier and less lonely.  It is not about keeping the one you love strong and encouraged.

 Love has the spirit of appreciation.  You can't do enough for one another through the hard and good times.  If you have to question whether someone loves you, chances are they do not love you.  They just care enough about you to get their needs met leaving you needing more than they care to give.  This is not the best relationship you can have.  Many people live in the same house with their spouses and are very alone.  This is not love it is convenience and you are cheating yourself.  You deserve more than that.  You deserve to be adored, caressed, wanted and enjoyed by your companion.

Sometimes, love is not enough.  Being in love with the one you love stimulates action.  Love grounds but being in love specializes the union. This brings the magic and splendor that motivates couples to be physically conscious of one another.  You just don't forget the twinkle in each others' eyes making love ageless and welcoming.  And this earthly bonding makes it easy to not desire any other.  My 89 year old friend, Mrs. Bass loved her husband and he loved her.  I still see that twinkle in their eyes when they would talk to one another.  Their love was strong and filled with much playing.  His love carried on even in his death as he made sure she would not want for anything while he was gone.  Her head was always held high and she was always at peace.  When she would mention Mr. Bass, a glow would fill the room especially when she said no one today compares to the love Bass gave me.  He just wanted me to be happy.

Being alone for many proves to be the best state to live in today because once you've been loved, you know when you have been shortchanged.  Sad to say, many have not been genuinely love to know the difference.  To you I say, be aware of your feelings.  They are crying and talking to you for a reason.  Don't fool yourself.  If you do, you will remain lost.

MOLESTED ANGEL GET HER WINGS

As a survivor of molestation, I can honestly say there is a beautiful life after being molested. I remember watching "Woman Thou Art Loose" by TD Jakes. In the movie, the main character, a young female was raped by her mother’s boyfriend who took her virginity. Neither her mother or anybody in her life knew her inner suffering with this experience. That hidden anguish grew to self-destruction.

The movie bothered me from the standpoint that when a man of God counsels this young lady knowing her deep seated anger and offered her no answers and in the end no hope. This was a great devastation for me because the victim ends up shooting the victimizer at the altar in the House of God. People found this to be an excellent movie. I found it to be a preying on emotions and a means of an income dealing with a subject so complex and soul altering that to tamper with it with no resolve was unjust to molested victims needing help. Several years later, I still remember this disappointment.

With this in mind, I want victims, not only molested victims to know and understand there is hope and there are answers. We just have to discover our own path to God. I wrote a book, "LAST DAY OF VICTIMIZATION". This book reveals the soul of victimization and prepares victims and those who love and want to assist in the healing process answers and a real understanding why we are victims. Trust me if you really want to be delivered from your past, it can happen and it will if you consider the possibility it is because you are a child of God therefore you are a target for potential abuse.

Though many people would hate to admit, healing from molestation and many other forms of abuse takes time, lots of time. It is a shifting of gears from low to high with neutral sometimes making us think we are not progressing. I want molested angels all around the world to know you can and will accept your wings of freedom. When it happens you will know it. I remember accepting my wings. It happened in a way that never entered my mind. I owe it to my soul mate. I will ever be indebted to him.

Standing up for one’s feelings, needs and desires was difficult for me as a molested victim because that natural choosing was denied me for so many years of my life. I faced the world not acknowledging my true feelings that made me who I am. Instead, the needs, feelings and desires of the ones I loved had precedence over mines; but finally after much trust in God and allowing myself to rise out of my private abyss, I spoke from my soul and risk the chance of disappointing or even losing my soul mate. See in the past, I was hollered at or spanked if I expressed my true feelings. But my day of realizing God has brought me from a long way I spoke and received my Wings of Healing. Today, I can say: God will restore the years of the locusts. My past can no longer paralyze my presence. To be free is knowing you are AMAZING!

LOVE IS WORTH HAVING.  DON'T LET THIS WORLD FOOL YOU IN THINKING DIFFERENTLY....message from my heart.

When I look at the world today, I cannot help but wonder how we have come to accept the programming this world has infiltrated into our minds when it comes to matters of the heart.  I mean look at all the lonely people in the world.   Why is there so little love to go around in a world filled with so many people?  The answer is easy, we as the human race are being conditioned to not believe in the power of love.

As the world continued to become more busy and noisy, the soul of mankind was silenced.  We do not move from the inside out to get to the best state of being in life.  Instead we move from the outside in trusting external sources to tell us what is best for ourselves.  For instance, the world knows the word love has an ancient vibration to the soul of humanity that makes it want it and desire to hear the words "I love you" to feel special and connected to one another.  So, love was a word left to be defined in so many definitions allowing no actual accountability to the person who decides to say "I love you" to someone.  Many say it knowing the receiver is automatically drawn in just because of human needs.

Usually when a person is asked to define what they mean when they say "I love you", you usually get, you know what I mean, I can't explain it I just know I do or it makes me crazy about you etc.,.  These shallow meanings found from both individuals promises a shallow foundation and a weak bridge to build an eternity upon.  Strangely, people do not realize it was their two unique meanings of love that caused the eventual collapse in the relationship.  They actually felt just saying the words guaranteed a bright future.  They learned to be shallow by following the world.

The love stories we find on TV make you think love is something you go get not something that gets you because that would mean you have to deal with more than your physical presence in the world.  Your soulmate is not someone the world finds for you.  He or she is a gift from God, the giver of love, life and eternity.  I know the world would have you believe it has what it takes to match you with that perfect mate.  How can it when the world does not bring forth life?  Love in all actuality is God manifesting His specialized care to His creations.  When He wants you to really experience His distinguished love for you, a special love will manifest and that love will be you in the opposite gender naturally able to love you through eternity.

I am experiencing my soulmate.  We share one major denominator and that is GOD as the foundation of our lives.  Both he and I, love the power of words and the sharing of them to enrich the lives of ourselves and others.  We would like to share this spiritual journey with you.  Please join me in sharing my soulmate's journey as he allows God to share the true meaning of love.

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 What Is Love ? & Can It Be Defined ?
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You know when I met him, I couldn't believe he could love me. Not only did he love me, but his family did as well. I was treated like a queen. I was given much nurturing. I didn't have to want for anything. Everywhere we went, people knew we were deeply in love. His parents were so happy for us they gave us a brand new home as a wedding present. Can you believe that? All was well until his parents died. They left us everything they had. Overnight, we were millionaires. He treated me like a dog and his family did too. Thank God they didn't treat me like a human being, I would probably be miserable.

I remember years back, people would describe being mistreated by another person or people as being treated like a dog. Just hearing those words would make you feel sorry for the person being used and abused. You don't hear it that much anymore because being treated like a dog today means being treated like a god. Because trust is such a hard thing to have among ourselves, many people are resting their trust in animals, especially dogs. Yes, dogs are many people's best friend.

Society is conditioning us to not believe in one another nor trust one another with our hearts and lives. This is creating a larger existence of alienation. As this continues, we face world knowing we are in danger because when human beings are not conscious of one another, they have no problem destroying and killing one another. The rat race of survival is part of the driving force shutting down human feelings and emotions. This is why a mother can kill her children, a husband can kill his wife, a grandchild can kill his grandmother, employee and kill employees and employers and walk into a church and shoot innocent people, etc., because there is no bonding or conscious awareness of the value of the human soul.

It appears our world can accept a family kidnapping an innocent young girl and know they raped, beat stabbed, and traumatized her endlessly easier than we can take a professional football player who grew up around dog fighting and abused dogs to make money. What's wrong with this picture? We are being desensitized to care about human sufferings. The price is: A lonely and loveless society consisting people who will kill you with no thought. Where there is no trust, there is no hope of love. Treat me like a dog?

(note: There's is nothing wrong with loving animals, but don't forget your fellowman.)

If you don't understand what is happening in our country, let me tell you. We are accustomed to only one stimuli and it is a rush in our emotional bodies. We have become accustomed to feeling sudden impulses of gratification with no room to feel subtle and calm vibrations. It explains why love has become so obsolete for most people. What can it do for us? Quick fixes are our answers to everything.

There are no more developmental stages for the human race. It is or it is not. There is no room for pondering or researching our souls for the moment's best experiences. This is why we have a larger choice of homosexuality. It is easier to find someone who can already relate to us in more normal ways than developing understanding of differences found in the male and female genders.

While we are out getting more things from this world we are giving away our individual reality to be at peace with our own existence. We do not want anything in our lives that does not get recognition from others. There is no peace in knowing we are decent, caring and loving people. What we want is orgasms, money and worship.

Our government realizes our values do not pertain to spiritual matters. It accommodates our need to be superior over another human being at any cost. That is why we do not get good service as often as we once did.  We are drawn in with kindness and once our money is released, many times we have to pray they will do right by us.  Often times, we lose in the process.

 Very seldom do we hear how wonderful it felt to love someone and this person loves you. It is so irrelevant today because what we live for is getting material things and sexual gratification. There are no other thriving emotions and feelings, at least not for the majority. If we talk about God, love, peace and spirituality, people do not have an ear for it because it brings no fulfillment.

When you have leaders seeking worship, money and orgasms, there is little hope in finding fulfillment in spirituality. As we strive for material wealth, we lose touch with things unseen like: loving your neighbor as yourself, we are one, judge not that ye shall be judged and a house divided against it self shall fail. There is no spiritual and soulful conscious left in the majority of the human race. What we have now is a species waiting for greedy people to tell us who we can and can not be. We are robots in the makings. All we do is push buttons and wait for the next signal. We’re coming to live for nothing.

It's amazing how focused in people are about orgasms. What fascinates me the most about it is how people prey on each other to make it happen. When we came to this world, we came fully equipped with sensations. These sensations were designed to show us our spiritual growth towards understanding God and life.  
 
Feelings, stimulation, and sensations are all signs of a powerful energy existing in the Universe. Instead of most people realizing the blessedness in having such signs of life, people deaden their life force through over indulgence in sex. What is this final outcome of release that we seek? It is the power to direct energy. The body can't contain it so it must release it. It happens by force, therapeutic touch, premeditation of another person seeking control, and at times by thought.  
 
Orgasms rule the world. Undesired pregnancies are a result of this epidemic. Body to body brings life, death, pain, ecstasy and disappointment. What about the rest of our being? Our souls and spirits are robbed of the opportunities to grow according to God's plan due to lack of power to transform. Most orgasms are loveless and create loveless beings. Each time an orgasm goes out into the Universe some form of life is formed and it is showing up in our interactions with one another. When we ignore our total being, we cause vexation of spirit resulting in delays of understanding our purpose.  
 
Each time you have an orgasm remember your body reacted because it was too weak to use God's power for good. Good ole orgasm is dissecting potentially beautiful relationships because there is no room for developing the mind and spirit. This is why there are so many lonely people in the world. There is no need to bond because most orgasms are given cheaply.  

It is amazing how the world(those who dictate our lives) has convinced us we need them to determine how to have love in our lives.  Many of us are becoming conditioned to celebrities telling us how relationships should be.  We have Dr. Phil telling us to get  with Match Makers as though we lack the ability to find a mate.  Since when did it become such a shopping spree.  I mean people do not get to know each other anymore.  They have regressed tremendously in their natural abilities to trust their instincts.

Clebrities get together for the same reasons Eve ate the forbidden fruit in the Garden of Eden--it was pleasing to the eyes.  What many people are calling love today is simply a drawing by senses to satisfy the physical appetite.  They do not get to the person inside the body.  This is why we have divorces and adulterous behavior.  Satisfaction of the senses is never enough especially if you want to be loved.

Due to the lack of love, people are weary, stressed and desperate in their presentation to life.  No one has the time to contribute good to their lives to give he or she a chance to recover.  People want instant perfection and gratification.  They don't realize they could be instrumental in bringing out the best in another.  But because a person is too poor, uneducated, different race, too fat, too skinny, too old, etc., love is almost impossible for them.  They say beauty is in the eye of the beholder, how will the beholder see the beauty if he or she lack the ability to see a person valuable as they are not as a potential mate.  The mate approach judges harshly leaving many people unloved.

There use to be a time when the opposite sexes could enjoy one another as friends and friends of family members but due to the decline of people getting married, bonding of one person to another is growing obsolete.  Because the pursuit for love is so shallow in mind, many people involve themselves in failed relationships causing trust to be almost impossible.  We're facing a loveless world.  People would rather put their trust and loyalty in their pets instead of another human being. This trend is growing giving us the determination to find ways to keep our pets healthy and living longer.

The less love there is in the world the more power is taken from the people.  This is a hidden agenda of those who want to control the world.  If we do not go back to our natural abilities to sense gentleness, peace, nurturing and bonding with one another, we will seize to exist.  The dye has been cast.